Get a date with the person of your dreams by
becoming irresistible to them.
1. SMILE: One of the best ways to make yourself
attractive to the opposite sex is to smile. Smiling at someone shows
you are approachable it also makes them smile. Because smiling is so
important to attracting someone, make sure your teeth look clean, visit
your dentist for a polish and don’t grin like an idiot.
2. EYE CONTACT: Make eye contact with the person you are trying to
win. Don’t stare but look into to their eyes for a few seconds at a
time this will signal that you are interested in them and that you are
open and honest with nothing to hide.
3. TAKE AN INTEREST: Look interested in what the other person is
saying. When someone seems to be taking a real interest in what you
are saying it automatically makes you like that person. We all like
our egos massaged.
4. SENSE OF HUMOUR: From a man’s point of view, if you can make a woman
laugh you are well on your way to success. Don’t try to make her
laugh with a string of dirty jokes though. There’s nothing more
boring than listening to someone tell joke after joke, dirty or
clean. Women prefer natural humour.
5. COPY CAT: When someone mimics your body movements whilst maintaining
eye contact they are displaying signs that they are attracted to
you. So you can reverse engineer this by copying your target’s
movements e.g. if they lean forward you lean forward, only mirror their
positive motions. This will make the other person feel that your are
kindred spirits.
6. HAND SIGNALS: Your hands are powerful tools that can send out
signals; good and bad. What you do with your hands speaks
volumes. Tapping or drumming your fingers on the table shows a lack
of interest as does hands shoved in pockets. It’s easy to do the
wrong thing with your hands through nerves so always be aware of what they
are doing. Of course, your hands can send out positive signals, this
doesn’t mean groping. Removing a hair or piece of fluff from the
other person can send out a positive signal so can an accidental touch
when reaching for something.
7. RELAX: First impressions count, arms folded, looking stern or
frowning can make you look unapproachable. Try to look relaxed even
if you aren’t. Giving the impression of being relaxed will make
other people feel comfortable with you, it also show that you feel
confident about yourself, a trait that people respond positively to.
8. DON’T TRY TO IMPRESS: Trying to impress a someone sends out signals
that say, ‘You won’t like who I really am’, ‘I haven’t much experience
with the opposite sex’ etc. Rather than impressing someone, it will
bore them stiff. A lot of people try to impress because they fear
rejection. Don’t worry about rejection you can’t win them all and
there’s always someone else. If they reject you then they probably
weren’t for you anyway.
9. POINTING: People tend to point towards people (not with their
finger) they are interested in, we do this subconsciously with our hands,
feet, legs and arms or we face towards the person we are interested
in. So if you see someone who interests you point yourself in their
direction.
10.BODY LANGUAGE: When we meet someone new, we subconsciously and
consciously make judgements based on that person’s body language.
The tips above are to a great extent, based on body language.
However, don’t assume that someone is attracted to you simply because they
display one of the traits above. If they display more than one then
you’re in with a good chance so be yourself and go for it.
You can find more free dating tips in Part Two of this article at my
website http://www.smarterwork.info
